Time To Ask Time To Tell

This mornings Conservative Republican San Diego Union-Tribune has a compelling and provocative Page One story about a local San Diego Navy Veteran and SDSU student who has moved front and center in the debate on Gays in the Military.

James Rocha age 23 has become a poster boy for repeal of Don"t Ask, Don"t Tell. A position he seemed reluctant to embrace, a reluctant warrior perhaps (for a cause) which he now fights partly in memory of a former commanding officer.

The questions and debate has been covered fairly by the hometown paper which serves the Metro area with the largest Military presence in the Nation. (Both Active and Retired).

You can sense here a shift in attitudes as people confront the deeply prejudicial and bigoted reasons the original policy was put in place.

As the young man at the center of this controversy asks?

“Where was the honor in living like a criminal, in silence?”

Indeed the better question might be, Why do we support a national law of shame which was signed with the premise,,"Homosexuality is immoral,wrong and illegal"

If the last statement gives you pause may I remind you in 1993 the move to enact "Don't Ask Don't Tell was led by then Senate Majority Leader Sam Nunn a Democrat from Georgia a State where it was in fact ILLEGAL to engage in Homosexual conduct between consenting adults!

Don't Ask, Don't Tell belongs to a different era!

The era of a Segregated US Military. It is an Anachronism which destroys the credibilty of our Armed Forces, demonizes and denigrates a segment of our Citizenry for no just cause and sends a message to American Citizens.

Some Citizens are less Equal than Others. After 233 years isn't it about time we live up to the Ideals in the Declaration of Independence? Judge a citizen for military service based upon his ability and fitness for the job and not their color,sex,or sexual orientation!

Navy veteran combats ‘don't ask, don't tell’

The rejuvenated debate over the military's policy on gay service members has focused attention on a 23-year-old Navy veteran in San Diego who says he suffered prolonged sexually oriented hazing while serving as a dog handler in Bahrain.

A Navy investigation completed in 2007 and released last month confirmed nearly 100 instances of abuse in the 19-member dog-handling detachment between 2004 and 2006.

Chief of Naval Operations Adm. Gary Roughead is expected to respond to the report any day.

Some of the abuse targeted Joseph Rocha, now a junior at the University of San Diego majoring in political science.

Rocha has become a spokesman for the drive to lift the “don't ask, don't tell” policy and hopes to someday return to a military free of discrimination.

“You're going to need strong, powerful gay officers to help with the transition,” he said.

Rocha said that he never told anyone of his sexual orientation, but that he endured degrading sexual teasing by members of his unit — including the detachment commander, who assumed that he was gay.

Rocha later left the Navy after acknowledging his orientation to his commander.

“Bahrain is behind me. My cause is not what happened there, but in changing ‘don't ask, don't tell,’?” Rocha said last week. “This is not an attack of mine against the Navy or the military itself, but against the policy.”

In recent weeks, his story has been featured in the national news media. He has spoken at rallies and attended the dinner earlier this month in Washington at which President Barack Obama pledged to allow gay and lesbian troops to serve openly.

It's an unlikely place for someone who grew up in Riverside County in what he described as an abusive household. But the terrorist attacks of Sept. 11, 2001, during his sophomore year of high school, fired up his patriotic drive. He enlisted in the Navy after failing to get an appointment to the Naval Academy.

Rocha knew he was gay, but that seemed less important at the time than fighting America's enemies.

“My understanding was if I didn't act on it, if I didn't tell anyone, then it was OK,” he said.

Rocha landed a military police job in Bahrain, the hub of U.S. naval operations in the Persian Gulf. He worked with dogs specially trained to sniff out bombs.

The investigation later documented that dog handlers were pelted in the groin with rubber balls, hog-tied and forced to eat liver dog snacks, made to stand at attention until a dog barked and walk around with chew toys in their mouths, or duct-taped to chairs and locked in kennels.

Some of the conduct took on sexual overtones. Prostitutes were hired for the unit's parties. One dog handler tried to climb in the shower with another. A sailor was forced to lean over a cabinet and spanked by the other handlers. Sailors told racist and homophobic jokes, according to the investigation report.

The report said a detachment leader concocted sexually degrading “training scenarios” involving the working dogs. In one such case, Rocha said, he was forced to pretend to engage in a sex act with another male sailor, once for each of the unit's 32 dogs. Female sailors similarly were forced to play-act as lesbians, the report said.

“I appreciate tough training. I appreciate a rite of passage,” Rocha said. “There was nothing educational about what they were doing to me. There was nothing dignified.”

He said he kept silent because complaining might have forced him to reveal his sexual orientation. A complaint by a new dog handler in late 2006 prompted the investigation.

Rocha's best friend, Petty Officer 1st Class Jennifer Valdivia, was the detachment's second-in-command during the abuse and later was its commander. A former Sailor of the Year, she had planned to leave the Navy and move back to the United States in early 2007.

But as the investigation concluded, Valdivia was ordered to stay in Bahrain and face disciplinary action for failing to stop the abuse. She gassed herself inside an outbuilding near her villa Jan. 12, 2007. On her MySpace page, Rocha said, Valdivia wrote that she was tired of taking the blame for other people's mistakes.

“I saw her two days before she killed herself,” Rocha said. “She gave me a long, awkward hug, which I realize now was her way of saying goodbye.”

Rocha suffered nightmares after his friend's death, but he proceeded with plans to attend Naval Academy prep school. After a few weeks there, though, he wrote to his commander that he was gay and was honorably discharged.

“Where was the honor in living like a criminal, in silence?” Rocha said.

For the next two years, Rocha attended community college and interned for Democratic politicians, including Rep. Susan Davis, D-San Diego. Although he had lobbied for gay-rights causes, Rocha said he never intended to go public with his story of abuse. Then, during a protest May 26 in San Francisco against the California Supreme Court's decision to uphold an initiative barring same-sex marriage, he met a reporter for the Bay Area investigative reporting group Youth Radio. A few weeks later she reported the abuse, with supporting documents, on the group's Web site.

Other media picked it up, just as gay-rights activists began a new push to force the repeal of “don't ask, don't tell.” Suddenly, Rocha is a national figure.

“It's been hard,” he said. “But I feel the imperative of doing this now.”

Source San Diego Union Tribune

An older Veteran 86 years old asks a different question.

Where is the compassion and the Equality? Speaking on the subject of Gay Marriage this past April.